Better Than This
A hopeful call to confront inequality, release pride and build change through courage and kindness.
"Silence is heavy, it's a weight I've denied" — Better Than This
A man can carry a silence around for years without ever calling it what it is — a weight, actively pulling at him, actively costing him something. It's easier to call it "just how I am" or "not a big deal" than to admit it's heavy, because admitting it's heavy means admitting it might need to change.
Denial Isn't Always Dramatic
Denying a weight doesn't have to look like lying to yourself in some obvious way. Most of the time it looks like just not bringing it up — not to a partner, not to a mate, not even really to yourself in the quiet moments. The silence gets denied by omission, not by argument.
What the Weight Actually Costs Day to Day
A denied weight doesn't sit still. It shows up as short-temperedness with the kids, as a beer that turns into three most nights, as a mate who's stopped calling back. None of these get connected to "the silence I've been carrying" — they just get treated as separate, unrelated problems.
Naming It Doesn't Fix It, But It's the First Honest Move
Calling the silence heavy — out loud, even just once, to one person — doesn't make it lighter overnight. But it's the difference between carrying something denied and carrying something acknowledged, and only one of those two can actually be put down eventually.
A Song Built Around Exactly This
There's a song called Better Than This that names this weight directly — silence, denied, and heavy — as the thing worth finally being honest about. You can hear it here: https://imale.com.au/listen/better-than-this
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